- to facilitate human flourishing: health, happiness, well-being
- to provide humane psychological and emotional health services, guidance and support, mentoring and coaching
- to help people find relief and meaning in emotional pain and suffering, discover a direction for their lives, and receive feedback that can facilitate change
- to help individuals cultivate caring, loving, healing relationships, work toward personal growth, address existential concerns, and learn valuable skills
Primary Theories informing practice
- Family Systems
- Imago Couples Therapy
- Gottman Method Couples Therapy (I have completed Training Levels 1 & 2)
- create relationships based on trust, genuine engagement and mutual respect
- create a safe space for self-exploration and honest communication by holding myself to the highest ethical standards, including honesty, informed consent, confidentiality, professional boundaries, and respect for the personal freedom, autonomy and individuality of persons
- encourage overcoming psychological helplessness and taking responsibility for emotions, thoughts and actions - and ultimately for living a self-determined life
- offer empathic understanding, and, when useful, build on that understanding to offer new perspectives and guidance for the further fulfillment of personal goals and freely chosen values
- help to identify self-defeating patterns learned in childhood and adulthood in order to promote the development of more effective choice-making and conduct
I do not treat people against their will or in any way use coercion, threats, manipulation, or authoritarianism.
I do not reduce others to diagnostic categories or labels - a process that diminishes personal identity, over-simplifies life, instills dependency on authority, and impedes post traumatic growth. Instead, I encourage people to understand and to embrace the depth, richness and complexity of their unique emotional and intellectual lives.
I do not falsely attribute emotional suffering and personal difficulties to genetics and biochemistry. Instead, I focus on each person's capacity to take responsibility and to determine the course of his or her own life.
I recognize that a drug-free mind is best suited to personal growth and to facing critical life issues. Neurotoxic psychiatric drugs cloud the mind, impair judgment and insight, suppress emotions and spirituality, inhibit relationships and love, and reduce will power and autonomy. They are anti-therapeutic.
Because personal failure and suffering cannot be separated from the ethics and values that guide our conduct, I promote basic human values including personal responsibility, freedom, liberty, gratitude, love, and the courage to honestly self-evaluate and to grow.
Because human beings thrive when living by their highest ideals, individuals may wish to explore their most important values, including spiritual beliefs, and to integrate them into their therapy and personal growth.
*excerpts from the Guidelines of Empathic Therapy